Tag Archives: Facebook

Push Button to Stalk *insert cutie’s name here*

25 Sep

What if Facebook makes stalking “legal”?

Remember my post about Google bringing out stalking in the real world? Well, Facebook stalking stays online. But this time, it’s going to be more legit.

Facebook is apparently testing a ‘stalker button’. This subscription feature allows users to receive alerts whenever a certain person does something on Facebook. You’ll get notifications in your notifications bar whenever your “stalkee” posts a new status or uploads new content.

This feature might be useful for those who want to be constantly updated about their friends’ and family’s activities. Especially when you have a lot of Facebook friends already, it’s hard to sift through that mixture of nice+ugly things called the News Feed.

But when put in the hands of an envious friend, a jealous ex (or a girlfriend jealous of the ex for that matter *evil laugh*), or an insecure boss, the ‘stalker button’ may be more of a weapon than a tool. Always knowing what someone is doing abolishes whatever kind of relationship it is that you have with that person, and the boundaries that comes with that relationship. Of course, I know all of us has his or her own stalker moments every once in a while. But to receive notifications effortlessly? That’s just too easy. And what’s scarier is that it somehow gives stalking a more innocent face – I’m just subscribed to his/her updates blah blah blah.

When put in the hands of corporations, the ‘stalker button’ is more of an information gathering tool. By just subscribing to people’s profiles, they can now monitor what consumers are doing and when they do it. It will save companies millions of pesos (or dollars, for that matter) in consumer research and insight work.

But the question is, is this ethical? Facebook has yet to come up with specific terms for this feature, but I hope that they won’t overlook privacy along the way.

Befriending and Defriending

20 Sep

August is Single Awareness Month. And yes, this is self-proclaimed.

I know too many people who changed their Facebook relationship statuses from “in a relationship” to “single” last month. Maybe it’s the moon and the starts conniving to slap us into reality, or perhaps it’s plain coincidence.

I, myself, became single. Good thing? I don’t know. I shouldn’t discuss it here anyway. But one thing that August surely taught us is that if it’s not in Facebook, it’s not official. “It” being the relationship. Our news feeds confirmed what others have been talking about offline – X and Y breaking up, Y getting it on with Z, etc. Full story here.

And so I arrived at that too familiar path of lefts and rights – to delete the ex or not. Of course, pretending to be rational, I should weigh the pros and cons. And this advice applies not just to exes. It’s one step closer to maintaining your online reputation, babies. So here it is:

CLEANING FACEBOOK FRIENDSHIPS 101

Here are some questions you should ask yourself before clicking that Remove from Friends link:

1. How is this person related to me?

Is he/she your friend-turned-enemy in highschool? A colleague you are not in good terms with? Your ex-boss who fired you? A new ex?

2. How often do I see this person?

Chances are, the more you see the person offline, the more you should think twice of deleting him/her in your network. Same, simple reason – it’s gonna be awkward. I’m telling you. Trust me. If you go to the same office together, give retain friend one point. If he or she is an enemy way back in highschool, and that person still gets into your nerves, give remove friend one point.

3. How bad is the situation between us?

Try reaching out offline one more time. If your differences are too irreconcilable, you know which side gets the point.

4. How much does the person impact my life?

Are you in the same department? Does he or she hold a position that would be beneficial to your goals? Because let’s admit it, in this world of corporate gangsters, it’s not what you know, it’s who you know. So it’s time to adopt a future-oriented perspective and think how this person might be of help in the future.

I know it still is hard to decide whether or not you should delete that person in your friends list. But you must always befriend and defriend Facebook contacts. You won’t maximize your social networks when there’s too much clutter. It’s time to rethink who should stay and who should go.

If you’re having problems deciding, just leave a comment below. Maybe we can work something out. 🙂

As for my ex, yes, I deleted him. >:)

Angel is getting ready to rob a convenience store

4 Aug

If I were a criminal, would I tweet? Maybe. Would I tweet about my evil plans? Probably not.

Bad boys and bad gals, the Web is not your haven. If you want to sound cool, spill the beans in a place where evidence is not a word and Print Screen does not exist. The Internet is not an online hideout.

Perhaps, it once was.

The Net exudes an aura of exclusivity, which is very appealing to the younger generation. As you rant in status updates and curse in Twitter, you assume that the oldies won’t find out. But that mindset is troublesome, especially if you’re hiding something (i.e. cursing, or stealing cars for God’s sake). I hope Ivan Padilla reads this blog post. But it’s too late.

It’s too late to put down what he and his gang have been posting online – their profiles, the exchange of wall posts and tweets while planning their operations. Deleting their accounts won’t do any good. Everything posted online leaves cyber fingerprints. And the government is watching every click – putting together all those imprints to finally put handcuffs on you.

Government agencies go online. Do not underestimate them.

This, now, makes me think: Does the Internet make criminal acts more normal? Is it desensitizing us? It is easier to find people who have the same “inclinations” online. This is collaboration at the extreme end.

Read: Gangs in New York talk Twitter: Use tweets to trash-talk rivals, plan fights

It’s old-school crime meets new technology: attacks being plotted – and thwarted – 140 characters at a time.

I could put this example, planning online and doing crimes offline, in my Gel-O typology but I chose not to. Friends, there’s a reason why companies don’t do executive meetings in Twitter. If it’s a battle plan, IM is the farthest it can go online. Stay underground and off the Wall. Not that I dream of being a consultant for gangs. But please, if you’re really unstoppable, leave the cyber world. We don’t want people telling the government to shut Twitter down, just like what happened to Formspring because of abusive users.

Sure, police officers use online social networks to track these criminals. But do we need to wait for their online plans to materialize before we do something about it? It’s a tedious task – searching for and cleaning dirt online. I just hope that the government is contemplating on how to bring crime prevention to the Web. Online worlds dominated by crime – not something I would like my children to see.